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Saturday, July 19, 2014

Summer Stories, Origin Stories


This past week, several students in my essay writing workshop submitted drafts for review by the rest of us.  We do this every week—it is a critique workshop—but this time the drafts were very specific:  each was to be entered in a writing contest co-sponsored by Paste and Biographile, with the theme “That Summer!”

Draft topics included a youthful romance rekindled in mid-age; hitting puberty with attitude; and a city kid discovering the wonders of wild nature.

A good number of my writing students—whether in memoir classes, personal essay, or family stories—are Boomers, others a bit pre- or post-.  No matter where they fall along that continuum, I’m always impressed by the range of personal stories they want to tell, especially those I call “origin stories”—as some of the summer essays turned out to be—stories that reveal how certain experiences from long ago helped shape our sense of who we are and have become.

In my next book—the title of which keeps changing—I devote the first chapter to Origin Stories—those focused on growing up through and into our late teens/early twenties.  Many of these stories occur within our families, schools, and neighborhoods, but not exclusively.

The ones I’ve written about include my parents “mixed” marriage and drinking; going to an all-girls Catholic high school; and what it was like to live nearly 1000 miles away from all my relatives—cousins, aunts, uncles, and grandparents.

Even more than shaping identity, however, origin stories are endless sources of inspiration for writers and other artists.  As I frequently misquote Flannery O’Connor: anyone who survives childhood has enough to write about for the rest of their lives.

Here’s what she actually said:

“Anybody who has survived his childhood has enough information about life to last him the rest of his days.”

Origin Stories: information and inspiration to last a lifetime.

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Tuesday, July 15, 2014

On Amazon, Authors, & Books


Thoughts while reading yet another article on Amazon in the business section of last Sunday's New York Times:


            Last October, I sat down to write a “letter” to Jeff Bezos, inspired by a memo he’d recently sent his company executives—a list of 24  “cool” and “not cool” company practices and attitudes that Bezos felt explained why Amazon was loved by its customers.  
            One of the 24 entries was  “young is cool.” There followed no corresponding “old is cool.”  That cried out for a response—especially from an old person.
            As a writer, I find “old” a compelling topic; it’s an interesting transition—startling in how unexpected it is once it arrives.  I’d written other pieces about aging, even started this blog.
            I submitted the letter-as-essay to about 12 publications, both print and online.  It was accepted by one, www.nextavenue.org, and went live on December 3.  Four hours later, it appeared on www.forbes.com, Next Avenue’s media partner, after which it showed up on 50+ other sites, then was tweeted and posted on Facebook and personal blogs.
            I’d like to think it was the writing that accounted for all that traffic.  Maybe.  But it’s more likely it was the title: “Memo to Amazon's Jeff Bezos: Old Is Cool, Too.” 

            Long before Amazon put most bookstores out of business, I worked part-time in a small, independent in Chicago.  I thought it the best job I’d ever had:  all those books to unpack and shelve, to put in the hands of customers, to buy and read myself.  I believe this job helped launch me as a writer, and eventually as an author, one listed on Amazon, in both Kindle and print formats.
            As a reader, I hate that so many bookstores have been put out of business by Amazon.  In the olden days, I would wander almost weekly into one, moving from section to section, discovering in all that leisure browsing some unknown treasure of a book I had to have.
            Yet I am also grateful to Amazon for what it does for authors, especially first-time, and especially for those of us published by small presses.  In its breathtaking dominance, Amazon gives us visibility, the required platform our publishers will or cannot give us, driving customers to our books, maybe even driving editors to contact us once they read customer reviews.
            This ambivalence toward Amazon, especially among authors, is well reflected in the following New York Times article.  I welcome comments to this post, from both authors and readers. 
            But, first, full disclosure:  I’ve never ordered anything from Amazon.  My royalty payment for the Stories book is $.89 cents/copy.




Saturday, July 12, 2014

On the Geezer Beat: What's in a Name?


“What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.”

OK—and with apologies to William Shakespeare—but if old people are variously called seniors, elders, oldsters, fogies, or coots, would we still be old?

Here’s the thing.  I’ve spent a long time thinking about what label best fits my idea and experience of old age.  I’m a writer; words matter. 

I’m also a teacher, and when designing a version of my journaling workshop, Composing a Life, for the plus 50 crowd, I was stumped when coming up with the subtitle.  The first part was easy: “A Journaling Workshop for Boomers and…” 

And that’s were I got stuck. 

Everyone who pays attention to these things pretty much knows what age group Boomers represent: those born between 1946 and 1964.  But as for those of us born just before 1946—as I was—what are we called? 

A couple years ago, I read that AARP divided us oldsters into the young-old (55-74) and the old-old (75+).   But those aren’t terms you go around calling yourself.

Before I myself became one of the young-old, I referred to my father and step-mother as the Geezers, as in “I’m going out to lunch with the Geezers.”  And though that word rankles many, I used it tongue-in-cheek, even with a certain affection when describing my obviously old parents.

As I’ve moved along the young-old continuum, I also refer to myself as a geezer, asking for the “geezer” discount at the movies, on public transportation, or wherever else it applies.

I’m not sure why, but “senior” has always grated on me, maybe because in most cases it’s used in a patronizing way: “our” seniors, as if we were so many aging pet hamsters kept mostly out of sight in senior centers and at senior villages.

I’m gratified to learn that this old-people-naming thing has not just me ruffled, but many of my peers. Here’s an excerpt from a recent NPR report

There's not much of a vocabulary that reflects the many older adults live now. I mean, who thinks of Bruce Springsteen and Mick Jagger as enjoying their golden years? I mean, I realize that most older people aren't rock stars, but still, they're living longer and staying healthier longer and working longer….The point is we're getting rid of a lot of these traditional terms for aging, but we haven't come up with anything to replace them that reflects what life is like now.

Read more at:



p.s.  As for what I came up with for the second part of the workshop subtitle.  The best I could do was “Beyonders.”   I’m open to any suggestions that would describe those of us pre-Boomers who do not yet see ourselves as Elders, a title and tribe I look very forward to joining someday.


AND PLEASE NOTE:  The next online writing workshop begins August 20 and runs six weeks.  For more information, and to register, please email me at madmoon55@hotmail.com.

Monday, July 7, 2014

Old Bones, New Pleasures: The Dog


I’ve written poems, letters, journal entries, and essays about my dog, Rollie, the last attempt provisionally titled “Living the Life of Rollie.”

In the notes I have for that particular piece—handwritten, with lists headed “Stuff of Legends,” “Our Shared World,” and “His Idiosyncrasies”—I scribbled near the bottom, “Dare I end by voicing that most trite of all phrases, 'This dog is irreplaceable.'?

Those notes were written after he died, after I had him “put down,” as they say, because of the liver damage that was ending his long and well-lived life.  That was 25 years ago—well nigh past the time when I should have replaced that irreplaceable pup.

But I’m pretty sure I’m ready now, ready to have my heart cracked open and then broken for love of a dog.

But before I head out for the shelter, I honor my Rollie dog with this poem, written not long after he died:


Neighbor Dog

Then in that moment
when he sank slowly onto my foot
and leaned heavily into my thigh,
then he was every dog I ever loved,
            but mostly Rollie,

who, dead and gone these past five years,
lives still in the press
of that black lab’s head.



Tuesday, July 1, 2014

I Ain't No Dinosaur.


The following is from an essay in the Lives section of this past Sunday’s New York Times.  Written by Josh Weil, who is in his 30s, it describes his return visit to Russia where, in 1991, he’d lived as part of a student exchange program.

“What do you do when the world that made you moves on? How do you move on, too, without losing all it once meant? Most of us face this struggle: the sale of a family home, the reshaping of a hometown, marriage morphing into divorce.”

That first sentence particularly caught my attention: A few days earlier, I’d attempted to use yet another updated version of an ATM at my local Chase bank.  I stood there, befuddled, doing a great impersonation of an old person, trying to negotiate the new design. 

Now over the years since they were first introduced, I’ve adapted, and with barely a sigh, to all the other updated ATM versions—both at Chase and Citi, where I also hold an account.  I love ATMs, use them all the time, that is when I’m not busy paying bills online and doing all kinds of other internet-y stuff.

Which is all to say, I ain’t no dinosaur when it comes to technology.  True, I own a flip phone and a pretty old version of a MacBook.  And, true, that’s about it when it comes to my treasured tech gadgets.

Which likely had something to do with the problem I was having, standing stupefied in front of the ATM:  I was unable to cognitively compute the look of the damn thing.  And so the intervention—after my feeble squawk for help—from the kindly Chase employee.

Turns out, this new design is modeled after/resembles one of those Smart- or i-Things.  That made me feel a touch better.  And also put me in mind of the day I sat down with my 80 yr. old father and helped him record an outgoing message on his new answering machine.  On the tape, he sounds like someone was holding a gun to his head as he slowly repeated his name and request to “Please. Leave. A. Message.”

Which made me think that if someone were to put one to mine and say, “Ok, lady, what does this new ATM shape remind you of?,” I'd have to say, very slowly and clearly, if with some urgency, "Hold on.  Can I google it?"

Which is what I just did. See? I ain't no dinosaur.







Saturday, June 28, 2014

The Geography of the Future?


I’m a bit behind in my reading, hence this article from the July/August 2011 issue of Orion. It’s by James Howard Kunstler, author of The Geography of Nowhere (1994).

Here’s more about him:  http://kunstler.com/about/

What’s interesting to me about the Orion piece is that among all the reasons Kunstler gives for the inevitable transformation of the American landscape, the needs of an aging population are not included. He himself is a Boomer (just), but does not mention how that demographic will affect the way we design our living spaces, including cities.

Here’s an excerpt:

“I don’t think there’s any question that we have to return to traditional ways of occupying the landscape: walkable cities, towns, and villages, located on waterways and, if we are fortunate, connected by rail lines. These urban places will exist on a much smaller scale than what is familiar to us now, built on a much finer grain. They will have to be connected to farming and food-growing places. A return to human scale will surely lead to a restored regard for artistry in building, since the streetscape will be experienced at walking speed.”

Whether you agree with Kunstler or not, I do believe the issues he raises are timely and urgent:



Thursday, June 26, 2014

De-Throning the Cult(ure) of the Automobile


A thoughtful and timely article by Henry Cisneros.  For those of us who love cities--and want to end our days in them--he explores how that might happen.

(p.s.  see if you can count the number of times "walk" or "walkable" appears in the piece.  I've bolded two instances in these excerpts.)


“Reports by the National Association of Home Builders indicate that more than 30 percent of home buyers 55 and older would seriously consider buying town homes, duplexes, or multifamily condo units. As a society we need to produce more such housing that is of smaller scale, affordably priced, and located in walkable communities.”

“One of the most important breakthroughs in the community-building field in recent years has been the work of the architects and planners known as the New Urbanists, who support walkable, mixed-use communities that reduce the focus on cars.”