Thursday, January 25, 2018

I Was There: 1968

Philip LaChapelle and I were already married when 1968 began, but had not yet moved to New York, where he was to resume his studies at Columbia University. They’d been interrupted by his tour of duty in Vietnam, from which he’d returned less than a year earlier.

While in Chicago, Philip had been hired by City News Bureau, a local wire service that groomed its reporters to work in one of the four Chicago daily newspapers that existed at the time. http://www.encyclopedia.chicagohistory.org/pages/1733.html

Meanwhile, I was professionally adrift, having finished two years of college, but without any goals beyond that. To accommodate myself to Philip’s late night work schedule, I took a job as an admitting clerk at Presbyterian-St. Luke’s Hospital just west of the Loop. Philip would get off work, then swing by and pick me up, and home we’d go to our basement apartment at North Avenue & Austin Blvd.

I was a news junkie before meeting and marrying Philip; the assassination of President John F. Kennedy in 1963 had kept the entire nation—and my family—glued to the TV screen for days. Then in 1965, the Vietnam war became “[t]he first ‘living-room war’,” with Americans watching reports from the front nightly on their TVs. http://www.museum.tv/eotv/vietnamonte.htm

Three years later, the anti-war movement was also big TV news, especially during the 1968 Democratic National Convention in Chicago.  Protestors from all over the country gathered in Grant Park during August 23 – 28 of that year. Philip and I were among them, though not, fortunately, on the last night, during the “Battle of Michigan Avenue,” when the terrible violence erupted.



All of these images—and many more—came to mind when I read the article by David Waters, “Forces of chaos, seeds of change,” in Monday’s USA Today. A collection of facts, events, quotes, and names from 1968, the piece includes the assassinations of Bobby Kennedy and Martin Luther King, Jr. 

Immediately following King's murder, rioting erupted on Chicago's west side. The next morning, Philip and I drove the almost-empty streets, seeing the devastation, though never leaving the car. At one point, we were wedged between two slow-moving National Guard vehicles, making me feel somewhat safer. 

That ended though as we later rode past a north side housing project. Along with a handful of other cars, ours was fired at by a sniper in one of the buildings. I remember all of us quickly pulling over to the shoulder, then jumping out of our cars and taking cover behind them.

There was a lot more cultural and political upheaval going on in 1968, the year I turned 25. And though living in Chicago--and being married to an anti-war vet who was also a reporter--may have placed me closer to some of it, all of the "revolutions" that occurred, or began, in a mere 365 days changed my life forever.

To read more about that pivotal year, especially if you also lived it:



Thursday, January 18, 2018

When Seeing Is Believing

Even before I started attending an all-girls Catholic high school in the late ‘50s, I didn’t wear much make-up. Maybe any. Well, except on Halloween, if the costume called for it.

In high school, if we should be foolish enough to show up with even the faintest smear of rouge, lipstick, or eyeliner, we’d be sent immediately by the keen-eyed nuns to wash it off. And likely get a detention in the process.

Then in college, and into my 20’s and 30’s, I did start applying a bit of color to eyes, cheeks, and lips, but often so light it barely registered. In my 40’s, I stopped using lipstick altogether, then after 50, my cheeks glowed red only during Chicago winters or from embarrassment.

As for my hair, I had it colored just once, and for a very short time. In my late 40’s, I had a crush on a much younger man. I have pictures from that time, and in them I look like I’m wearing a short dark helmet on my head. Maybe that’s what the MYM thought as well.

And now here I am in my 70’s, white haired and, except for occasional eyeliner, back to looking like my 14 year-old self. OK, maybe not “looking like,” but looking as au naturel, unadulterated.

Which is just my choice. I don’t and never have judged any woman for doing the opposite, for enjoying both applying and wearing make-up, for getting a hair-color touch up here and there.

What I’m not so crazy about are the attempts of some women—and it’s mostly women—to so distort their aging faces that they resemble those on store mannequins: hard, unyielding, and void of all character.

But, again, if someone wants to pay big bucks and undergo surgery, fine by me. Still, I wonder what kind of choice it really is, given that we live in a culture that so values youth and fears old age, one that harshly judges women on their looks no matter their age. And against a standard that is itself a lie, one created not only by physical enhancements but also by technical ones: airbrushing and photoshopping.

And so I was encouraged to read that the drug store chain, CVS, will no longer digitally alter photos that promote their beauty products:

"We will not digitally alter or change a person's shape, size, proportion, skin or eye color or enhance or alter lines, wrinkles or other individual characteristics," CVS said in a press release. "We want our beauty aisle to be a place where our customers can always come to feel good, while representing and celebrating the authenticity and diversity of the communities we serve."  

Read more at:


And this article from the New York Times, where the writer is having a bit of fun with the topic, but at least mentions how both young girls and “mature” women will benefit from seeing photos of women, models or otherwise, who look like they really look:

“While we most often complain about the negative effects airbrushing can have on the body images of young girls — the American Medical Association has identified it as health issue — the impact of Keaton-esque treatment can be just as detrimental for us more mature women, even if theoretically we are supposed to know better (or at least be able to recognize the impossible, or implausible, when we see it).”

Read more at:



Thursday, January 11, 2018

How Broad Are Those Shoulders?

I’m a daily communicant at my local Starbucks. It’s not only the coffee, but the friendly baristas, and especially the newspapers that get me there. Every morning, I read the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and the two Chicago papers.

And of course I take notes in my 5 x 3 inch memo book: quotes from articles; books I should read; news items that might make their way into my writing or onto my blog.

Or, as in the case of a recent editorial in the Chicago Sun-Times (12.31.17)—"8 New Year's wishes for Chicago and Illinois"—a Letter to the Editor. For among those wishes—including “more money for schools” and “fix the broken property tax system”—I didn’t see one that I and many others dearly wish for: affordable housing.

And so I sent this to the Sun-Times on January 3:

To the editor:

Re: "8 New Year's wishes for Chicago and Illinois," may I suggest a 9th? And, given its urgency, maybe make it #1? Affordable housing. For without decent and affordable places for people of all ages, races, and finances to live, Chicago will lose what makes it worth living in: its unique diversity.

Carol LaChapelle

Short, to the point, no whiney tone, and so I was pleased to see it published on the paper’s website on January 7.

Now shortly after I sent it, I got to wondering how I became someone who so values diversity. How I want to, even need to, live in neighborhoods where I encounter it daily: on my walks and train rides; at both the Jewel and the Mexican market; at my favorite bar and in my parish church; and at Starbucks.

How did I—raised in an all-white, lower middle-class suburb in the ‘50s, and where I lived until my early 20’s—make the transition from that small homogenous community to one so large and diverse? And how, over time, did I come to prefer the latter?

Seems to me, from this vantage point, that coming of age in the ‘60s had a lot to do with it. I went to a commuter college on Rush Street, hung out after night classes with a guy I met there, and then later married a Vietnam vet who would move us to New York, to the Upper West Side, in 1968.

And while I didn’t especially like living there at the time, the pace, the pulse, and the variety of people I encountered in New York unalterably changed me, made me choose urban living, starting with when I separated from my husband and returned to Chicago in the ‘70s.

And as I’ve aged, it’s only gotten easier to live in the city: I don’t have to own a car to get around; all the walking I do keeps me in pretty good physical shape; all the daily stimulation on those walks, including the people I talk to at Starbucks and the bar and the Mexican market, keeps me in pretty good mental shape.

But the part of aging that’s definitely gotten harder in this place is being able to afford to live here, even as I’ve kept moving farther north and west within the city. Over the past 20 years, I’ve been gentrified out of more Chicago neighborhoods than I can count on one hand.

Hence that letter to the editor. Because if this City of Broad Shoulders can no longer accommodate the poor and the rich, the old and the young, and the rich mix of races throughout then it may no longer be a place worth living.

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Thursday, January 4, 2018

My Good Friend in the Heavens

On Monday, New Year’s Day, I read my horoscope in the Chicago Sun-Times. And though I’m not given much to astrology, it was the first day of 2018, which means the prediction blather was in full tilt in both print and online media.

So why not take a look, I figured, at how the planets might align for Scorpios in the new year? Here’s what it said: “This is the beginning of a very lucky year for you because lucky Jupiter is in your sign. The next time this happens will be 2030. Enjoy your good fortune!”

Now, I’ve no idea why Jupiter is lucky, or what it means for it to be in my sign, but I quite liked the idea that it was. I know that luck plays some role in how things go in our lives, maybe even a significant one, so I’m willing to let it arrive in whatever form it takes, even, per NASA, as “the largest planet in the solar system….so large that all of the other planets in the solar system could fit inside it. More than 1,300 Earths would fit inside Jupiter.”

OK, that’s a good start: like Walt Whitman, Jupiter contains multitudes, which is kinda, sorta how my own mind works.

Next, I had to investigate how all that we know scientifically about Jupiter translated astrologically. A simple google search brought this from astrology.com:

“Luck and good fortune are associated with Jupiter for good reason. This is a kind and benevolent planet, one that wants us to grow and flourish in a positive way. Jupiter may be judge and jury, but it's mostly an honorable helpmate, seeing to it that we're on the right path. While our success, accomplishments and prosperity are all within Jupiter's realm, this largesse can, at times, deteriorate into laziness and sloth (Jupiter, at its worst, is associated with weight gain!). More often than not, however, Jupiter will guide us down the primrose path.”

OK, not so crazy about the laziness and sloth and weight gain part, but then it turns out that leisure, as distinguished from laziness, is “also one of Jupiter's pastimes. Sports of all kinds, games of chance and a stroll in the park with the family pet (Jupiter loves animals) –- these are all ruled by this planet. Finally, Jupiter often presages great wealth, material and otherwise. This is a good friend in the heavens!”

So given all of that, and my penchant for journal keeping, this next year I plan to record how and when good luck and fortune show up in my life. Which I guess I may already be doing, though I call it a gratitude journal.

And maybe in the end that’s what having a “good friend in the heavens” really means: some one or thing that helps us focus on our life’s great wealth—in whatever form it takes—and of how grateful we are for it.